WHO IS EVIL? –

WHO IS EVIL? – 

A while ago, I was called “evil.” In that situation, I took pride in the description because what I had done to “earn” that title was follow the wishes of someone who was sick and then dying even though others did not agree with those wishes. To be honest, I did not agree with some of them either but I respected and loved the person who made the requests so I followed through with them. My conscience is clear. I can look at myself in the mirror and be proud. I can sleep at night.

Oxford Languages Dictionary defines evil as “profoundly immoral and wicked.”

Is taking care of someone else and/or yourself profoundly immoral and wicked? No. As a woman, mother, sister, daughter, niece, granddaughter, aunt, wife/significant other, and friend I consider it my duty to take care of those I love as well as myself.

If putting the welfare of my children first makes me evil, then so be it.

If ignoring gaslighting and calling it out makes me evil, then so be it.

If putting a sick and/or dying relative’s wishes first makes me evil, then so be it.

If ignoring and/or not believing lies makes me evil, then so be it.

If taking care of myself physically and mentally makes me evil, then so be it.

If fighting for my child(ren) makes me evil, then so be it.

If fighting for my friend(s) makes me evil, then so be it.

If ending relationships with those who are dangerous to me in any way makes me evil, then so be it.

The evil people that I have come across in my lifetime are the ones who care only about themselves and have absolutely no regard for anyone else. These people are profoundly immoral and wicked. They want everything done their way when they want it done. They never consider other people in any situation. They don’t consider what they want right or wrong. If they want it, it has to happen no matter what the consequences.

I have been called a LOT of things in my life. Most were good and some were not. Almost all of them were accurate at the time. (LOL) Evil, though, has never been who I am. Do I have evil thoughts? Heck, YES!!!! Who doesn’t? But considering others and then not acting on them proves that I am not evil. Even being called evil did not make me want to exact revenge, which I could have very easily done. That just isn’t who I am.

I am extremely glad that the person I was protecting and I had a deep conversation about this very thing before they got sick. They acknowledged that I have lived my life taking “the high road” and letting the evil that was thrown at me roll off my back. They agreed that no matter what, I was always polite and civil, which I continue to be. Our conversation was long and deep and touched on many things that impacted our lives and will continue to impact mine.

Please let me repeat myself:

My conscience is clear.

I can look at myself in the mirror and be proud.

I can sleep at night.

I am NOT profoundly immoral and wicked. I am a good person who did the right thing politely and civilly.