LOVE BOMBING –

LOVE BOMBING –

Have you heard of “Love Bombing”? I had not until recently. Love Bombing is defined as “a form of emotional manipulation and abuse where someone overwhelms a new partner with excessive affections, gifts, compliments, and intense attention”.

Thinking back, I don’t think that I have been love bombed as defined above. If I was I assume that I immediately became suspicious and cut ties with that person.

I have been love bombed sporadically when my significant other wanted something from me. And I have been continuously love bombed until they got what they wanted from me. Either way was not pleasant.

People talk about the Honeymoon Phase of a relationship. In the beginning, everything is great. Everyone is happy. Both parties are polite, thoughtful, kind, considerate, and on their best behavior. This rarely continues as the couple gets comfortable with each other, learn more about each other, and settle into this still new, but deeper (and hopefully permanent) relationship. This is normal. It happens with co-workers, friends, and romantic interests.

For me, Love Bombing falls under the heading of “If It Seems Too Good To Be True, It Isn’t”.

Lesson learned.