Only YOU Can Make You Happy

Only You Can Make You Happy

This is for all of you out there who try to find your happiness, joy, or “reason for living” from someone else.

We hear it often – Only YOU Can Make You Happy. It is true – no one else can do this for you. I will say it again – only you can make you happy. Once you do that, others can add to that happiness, but until you find your happiness within, you will keep searching, unsuccessfully, for someone to do the impossible.

I have spent my life learning this. I have not mastered it (yet) but I am much further along than I was back when life was “easy” (before adulthood). My no. 1 rule for myself is to be honest with myself so that I can be my true self. If I am not honest with myself, how am I going to be honest with others? If I am not open with myself, how can I be open with others?

Honesty and openness are crucial to happiness within yourself and with others. For me, it was exhausting and a drain on my soul when, many, many years ago, I had to remember my lies. My happiest times were when I was honest in my relationship, whether it be friend, family, or romantic. Once I figured out that the truth was easy to remember, my life got easier and better.

One of those truths that you need to understand is about who YOU are, deep down. Are you a good person? Are you a loving person? Are you a loner? A social butterfly? And thousands of other things. Once you know who you are, you won’t need another person to make you feel complete. You will also have the capacity to find “your person” – that person who really, truly cares about you. They accept you as you are, support you as you mature and change, and are there through it all. They make you laugh and bring more joy and happiness to your life with their presence. The truth is that if someone wants you to change who you are, what you believe, how you live, what you feel, they don’t really care about you. That is not love; that is manipulation and oftentimes mental abuse.

LISTEN to your intuition because it will not steer you wrong. And those little things that bother you about another person; the ones you are choosing to excuse or ignore? They keep popping up because you know something is wrong. Don’t make excuses for another person’s behavior no matter how they look on the “outside” (acts of kindness, expressions of love, etc.). Their true self will always show through; you need to understand this and see them for who they keep showing you they really are.

Take the time to learn about yourself, like yourself, find yourself, and love yourself. Only you can make you happy!